Sharing a home with a bunch of strangers is hard but when you are an introvert, that can be even harder. Unless you are living with other introverts, you are probably being exposed to high doses of loud noise, late-night parties, tiring conversations, little privacy and almost no time for yourself. That can be very stressful and it can make you feel like moving out every other day. But before committing to such a big decision, try to work your way around your current living arrangement. Living alone in a city like London can be incredibly expensive and if you think that your next roommates will be any different, you are wrong. Here are some of the things you can do to survive as an introvert who is sharing a house with someone else:
- Find time for yourself
- Have your own hiding place
- Do not pressure yourself to turn your roommates into friends
- Block out all outside noise
- Learn to be flexible from time to time
Move out only if neither one of these solutions manage to help you.
Don’t underestimate the power of “Me” time
As an introvert, you probably need some peace and quiet and some time on your own to properly recharge your batteries. That can be tricky if you are living in a house full of strangers and, especially if you are sharing a room with someone else. Still, whatever the case, you need to find a way to spend some time alone with your own thoughts and with yourself. One of the best ways to do that is to be awake when no one else is. Either get up early in the morning before everyone else in the house or go to bed late in the evening.
Have a secret getaway spot
Another fantastic way to enjoy some space to breathe and get away from your flatmates is by finding a place outside of your home to which you can always escape when you feel overwhelmed. A library, a coffee shop, an internet café or a park – go out and explore a bit.
You don’t need to be friends with your roommates
Some people become good friends with their flatmates but that does not mean that this will also be the case for you. Don’t pressure yourself to always keep the conversation going even when you feel like you have nothing in common with the people with whom you are currently living. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t become the best of friends. Your roommates do not have to be your mates and that is totally ok.
Buy a nice pair of headphones
One of the best ways to block out all the noise around you and to escape into your own little world is if you put on a pair of headphones and listen to your favourite songs or just enjoy a private screening of a good film.
Remember that it is not all about you
Do not try to impose your lifestyle on your roommates. If they are extroverts, they simply cannot help being a bit too loud, emotional and outgoing just like you can’t help being an introvert. Accept that you fall into two different categories of people. One loves to socialise and probably shops at the busiest streets in the city while the other prefers their own company and enjoy online shopping a bit too much (so much that they have the phone number of a professional eBay delivery service in London on speed dial). Cut your extroverted flatmates some slack and in return, they may give you more space when you need it.